Eliminate Negative Words - Can't

With people so vocal, with social networks providing everyone a forum, and with so many different opinions out there, words have seemed to have lost their once precious value. 'Seemed' to have.

See the thing is that your words are second only to your actions as to what influences yourself and others. Words can create/destroy, help/hurt, make one move or stay, give one freedom or damnation. As powerful as words used to be are as powerful as they are now and you need to realize what you speak. Even for those not overly religious, you'll see here shortly how simply eliminating your negative words can have you feeling better and make you more accountable to yourself and others.

Let's start with the biggest culprit of all: "can't". 'I can't get that job.' 'I can't do this homework.' 'I can't talk to him.' 'I can't be that strong.' And it goes on and on...and on. Saying you can't destroys both self-confidence and confidence that other people have in you. When you continuously say "can't", you create an arena of things in your mind that are now unobtainable. When you continuously say "can't", you diminish the wonderful things that you can do. When you continuously say "can't", you become sick of the person you are because you "can't" do anything.

People often mistake "can't" with "inability", which are COMPLETELY different ideas. "Can't" is a mindset, "inability" defines itself - not being ABLE to do something. Most people who hid behind "can't" are completely able, they've just made their minds up that they won't do it. I hold nothing against people who are unable to do things. A blind man usually has no choice in seeing. He lacks the ABILITY to see. However, he has a choice in whether his blindness is used as an excuse. "I can't read/dance/work because I'm blind." We all know that these are not truths. And yet, too often people handicap (no pun intended) themselves in a similar manner, even though they are fully capable.

My solution: Take it out of your vocabulary. Don't use it. You don't need that mindset dominating your thoughts, limiting your actions, and crushing your confidence. Replace your "can't"s with "can"s. Then figure out what you would need to change in order for those statements to be true. Finally, make sure that change happens. It won't be easy, but you will become a happier and more productive person for it.